It's been a very long time since my last post. I have gone through a divorce, found and moved in with a new boyfriend, had some horrific employment experiences and got a new dog. I'm sure there is a lot more in there, but these are the major changes.
Wow, can I just say that divorce is one of the most difficult things a person can go through? Regardless of if you are the divorcer or divorcee, it's truly painful and I wouldn't recommend it. In fact, I have never been one of those gals who thought about getting married from birth until the date as if it were the only reason worth continuing my life. I have also never been that gal who desperately needed children. No offense to those who are, I just wasn't that person. I'm sure from a psychological standpoint, we can all figure out why. Anyway, not only did my divorce hurt a person I considered my best friend, it and he hurt me in return. Just to get back at me. Lots of angry and insulting words, to say the least. It also cost more than my car and it was amicable and done without lawyers! Starting over is rough! I didn't make any money on this thing, I lost it. And for what? To have two broken and hurt people at the end? Not worth it! I mean it! Don't even get me started on the name changing bullshit. Women really do carry a lot of burden! Especially in a day and age where we work too! Blah!
Then, I meet a new and wonderful man who feels the same way. We share a lot of interests and he is a few years older. Those few years make more of a difference than you think. He loves to cook and will try any type of food, if he hasn't already. He loves music as much as I do and is also a born caregiver. I'm sure his lovely mother taught him well. The only downfall? I still can't escape the state of Pennsylvania. His family is there and in Ohio. I guess it's just my destiny to travel to the east coast without pay. Either way, There are simply just certain aspects of relationships you have to do. So make peace with them.
Work. Ugh, what can I say? Probably nothing since there is currently a legal battle. Just remember this, if someone is gossiping about people in front of you? Know they are probably gossiping about you to other people. Some people just enjoy being that person. And don't think that rules out the boss! Everyone is pushing everyones buttons and it creates a very unhealthy environment. If I can avoid it, corporate America will not be in my foreseeable future. More on this when the battle settles. Just know organizational bullying is just as common as bad coffee in the workplace. You have to know how to play the game, even if you don't want to. And if you don't, you will be kicked out of the "pack."
My physical health has plummeted and continues to be a difficult factor in my life. Fortunately, I have a lot of good friends who are willing to help this sister out when she needs it. That's all this girl has on that right now.
Ah, Buck. Our new golden retriever we adopted from a local shelter. Who gives up a nine month old golden to a shelter? A trained one, at that! He is beautiful, loving, happy, and empathetic to things even he doesn't understand. What a gift! He reminds me that I can never go without a dog again in my life. They are compassionate and perfect companions for a sensitive person like me.
That's the only update I have right now. I show that a lot of people have read previous posts, so this is a gentle reminder to keep moving forward. Sometimes its really tough, but it wouldn't be as good if it weren't. I will keep telling myself that until I write again.
Be well and be kind to one another. We are all on different, but likely equally difficult roads of life.
Written with a tablet, so I can't be responsible for ALL of the terrible errors here. :-)
